Monday, August 25, 2014

How to compliment a pregnant woman

It's simple really.  Three words.  "You look great."  Don't want to be so profuse in your praise because you're really only saying something because you want to be nice?  "You look good."

I know this is weird but it's actually almost NOT a compliment to tell a pregnant woman that she's "so small," or "doesn't look pregnant."  Why?  Because I can guarantee said pregnant woman FEELS huge even if she looks small to the untrained eye.  She feels like she's got a ball made of cement sitting on top of her bladder and stretching her skin to the point that it feels like it might rip.  She also might be significantly larger than she was 7 months ago (she may have gained at least 20 pounds already) and worrying about fitting back into her work clothes after baby arrives.  Conversely, when these compliments come on the heels of her OB telling her that she's measuring small (really???), she will freak out that she's not doing an adequate job caring for her unborn child.

So be generic in your compliments or compliment some other part of her that isn't her expanding abdomen.  "Your arms are so toned; you must do yoga."  Why thank you crazy lady in the bathroom and TSA agent at the airport!  We're a sensitive and hormonal breed, us pregnant women; tread lightly.


Monday, June 23, 2014

It's a(nother) BOY!

Just realized that although I shared the news with the Facebook, I have yet to post about it on the blogosphere.  Last Wednesday we went in at 21+ weeks for our anatomy scan and learned that we're having another boy!  I was very surprised because I was just convinced it was a girl.  I just laughed when the tech told us it was a boy.  I'm not at all disappointed because she also told us that all indications are he's a healthy little boy.  He had all his parts and was moving around on the screen.  The only down side: we have NO IDEA what to name him!!!

We've been talking about Graham being a big brother and that he'll have a little brother.  He still doesn't quite get it, but he will soon enough!

Here I am today at about 22.5 weeks.  I've been doing yoga and walking/jogging.  Both of which feel great at the time, but leave me with some hip/glute/IT band pain (even the yoga does that, but especially the walking/jogging).  And they both leave me totally exhausted by mid-afternoon.  And yet I continue knowing it's ultimately really good for me to stay active.  I've gained about 11 lbs, which is totally in the normal range.




And here I am with Graham at about the same point in my pregnancy.  I still think I'm carrying this baby a little lower.


Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Half way there

Today marks 20 weeks, if we're going by the October 21 due date.  Even going by October 25, this week still marks the halfway point in this pregnancy. I've finally stopped feeling bigger/worse than my first pregnancy. I've gotten up a few mornings recently before work and very briskly walked/slow jogged and it's actually felt good!  The baby seems to be sitting lower than my first pregnancy.  I feel movements in spurts - some days (like yesterday), it's very active.  I think those are the days that I'm less than active.  Other days the movements are more infrequent.  Graham has started telling teachers at school about the baby.  Apparently today he told one of the teachers that there is a baby in mama's belly and it's a girl (a word which he pronounces kind of like "duel").  Too funny.  He likes to say to me, "Hey mama, where's the baby?"  I'll ask, "Where do you think it is?" He responds, "In your tummy." Then he says, "Let's look," lifts up my shirt, and exclaims, "Nope, not there yet!" The first conversation we had about a baby who was going to live with us went like this:
G: "Well where is the baby now?"
Me: "It's in my tummy."
G: "No it's not. It's at it's house."
If only it were that easy!

This morning I snapped a few belly photos and Graham was very excited to participate.


These pants have a ridiculous amount of gather around the butt which is NOT flattering. I get that women expand all over during pregnancy, but this seems like overkill.

And as a reminder, here is 20 weeks pregnant with Graham.  All in all, not very different. But as the day wears on with pregnancy 2, I find my belly getting lower and bigger, which I don't remember happening with pregnancy 1.

Friday, May 30, 2014

Random Thought about having 2 kids

If baby number 2 happens to be a boy, which means I will have 2 boys, I will not dress them in identical clothing. Although it tends to be my friends with 2 girls who are guilty of this, but all the same, I find it silly.  Coordinated family photos? Yes.  ALL dress the same? Maybe (I refer to our family photo from 1997 where we were dressed in black shirts and jeans).  But identical frilly dresses on girls and random, not coordinated clothing on parents? I don't see the point.


Thursday, May 22, 2014

3 steps forward, 1 step back

This pregnancy is getting to me more than being pregnant with Graham.  Part of it is undoubtedly related to my level of excitement being different in the 2 pregnancies.  I was so over the moon thrilled to be pregnant with Graham, I may have just overlooked all the aches and pains. But I'm feeling them with this one. Now that I've made it through the first trimester, I will have 2 or 3 good days, where I have decent energy and little physical discomfort, which are then followed by a day where I'm tired, and I ache, and I'm cranky. Which about sums up how I feel tonight.  I find myself wondering, if I'm this achy at 18 weeks, how will I feel as this pregnancy progresses?

Monday, May 19, 2014

17 weeks

Another pregnancy update.  At 17 weeks, I continue to weigh about 5 lbs less than my first pregnancy, and the belly is measuring about .5" bigger.  I just feel like the belly is more pronounced than with Graham, although these photos do not corroborate that feeling.  I think I took these photos on a light day; I don't look very big.  Believe me when I say I look bigger in person (and it's not just me saying that - Jeff can confirm).  Also, I had to switch to maternity pants much earlier with this pregnancy!  That being said, I still had a fair number of bigger pants back in 2010/11.  Once I lost the pregnancy weight and then some after Graham, I finally bought smaller pants that fit.  Maybe that's why at 10 weeks, I was super uncomfortable.

17 weeks - pregnancy 1

17 weeks - pregnancy 2

The following aren't great belly shots, but I love that Graham is in them.



Besties

Since he was 3 months old, Graham has had a best friend.  Seriously, these two are inseparable!  Graham and Caden do everything together at school and talk about each other all the time when they are not at school.  There's a larger group that includes Kayleigh, Isla, and Colton, but Graham and Caden are thick as thieves.  It's taken us 3 years, but thanks to Caden's mom inviting us over for Caden's birthday, I think we've now all decided that it's fun for everyone to have regular playdates.  They came over yesterday and the boys had a blast.  The grownups enjoyed getting to know one another beyond just being Graham's mom and Caden's dad.  The boys had so much fun playing with the "new" toys at their friend's house.

Here are a few photos from Caden's house:







 
Kayleigh, Graham, and Caden, patiently waiting for cake.  Do you think they'd look at the camera at the same time?!




Because the adults were having such good conversations at our hose, we just let the boys play.  I did get a couple pictures at snack time.